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Tomato Rice Disaster

Write about your most epic baking or cooking fail.

It was November 2005. My 2 kids and I had just moved from Malaysia to a small town of Urasa in Niigata, Japan to join my husband who was studying there.

We arrived in late October, at the end of Ramadan and that year Eid fell on 4 November. That weekend, the Muslim Society at my husband’s uni held an Eid gathering. A senior student asked me to cook nasi tomato (tomato rice – rice cooked with tomato puree and milk.)

Now, I need to explain my situation again.

1. We had just arrived in Japan only for 5 days.

2. We had a second-hand rice cooker bought by my husband. Unlike a Malaysian rice cooker that had only one button to turn on/off, this rice cooker has many buttons – maybe 6 or 8 and the labels are in Japanese.

3. We did not have internet at home yet. I didn’t even have a basic mobile phone but we had a home phone. I could not google the recipe and at that point, Youtube was not yet discovered by many people including me.

4. I had never cooked tomato rice before. Yeah, I was 37 years old – but I never bothered to learn to cook it before. Other than the plain rice, the only variety of rice that I knew to cook then was nasi lemak, nasi ayam and of course, nasi goreng. Even cooking plain rice using the Japanese rice cooker was complicated enough.

5. Before we moved to Japan, I had not done much cooking for the family. I had a helper at home for 4 years and the helper did most of the cooking. Anyway, tomato rice was not in the list.

6. There was no recipe books – I shipped them from Malaysia together with many dry food items – but the packages had not arrived yet.

7. I told the senior that I had never cooked tomato rice before and she just told me to use milk instead of water.

Well, that’s where it went wrong. I took her words literally. I cooked the rice totally in milk and tomato puree, no water at all.

And it resulted with rice that was undercooked. It was too hard. My BIGGEST mistake was because I had not used water at all. Perhaps people would think that I didn’t have common sense. But nasi lemak is cooked 100% with coconut milk, so when they told me to replace the water with milk, I followed blindly.

Because the rice I cooked couldn’t be eaten, the senior had to come to the rescue.

It’s been 18 years since that disaster. I’d learnt other variety of rice now – biryani, nasi minyak, nasi dagang, nasi kerabu. I never made sushi roll though. I’d just leave some matters to the experts 😁

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Decluttering my head

Why do you blog?

I discovered blogging in 2002. It was also called online journal then. Many people were using blogger.com. I guess it’s the easiest to use because it’s linked to Google services. Some people use livejournal. My blog was on Diaryland.com. The name I used for myself was Nectar then. My blog was a form of memory keeping.

A few years later, I moved to modblog but then there was a change when modblog became efx2. I had a baby in 2007 and was too busy to continue blogging. Many Malaysian bloggers I knew had become my Facebook froends and I mainly used Facebook to update my status.

In 2015, my family moved to Japan and I took a leave from work. I had time to write again, so I signed up on WordPress. I downloaded the app on my phone thinking it would be easy now, I could update my blog even without a computer.

In 2019 I went back to work and got busy again and abandoned the blog. Now that I’ve retired, I have more time to blog.

When I was younger, I thought it would be awesome if I could publish a book. Now that self-publishing has become easier, I no longer have that dream. To me, self-publishing a book has just become a form of vanity. Please don’t get offended by my opinion. You do you. If you have decided to self-publish, by all neans, just go ahead. I’m just content with having a few other international bloggers read my blog. I also love to read their blog posts.

If I really want to publish, I can just compile all my previous posts into an e-book. My dream now is to complete the fifty prompts (I mentioned this in an older post) about my family and turn in into an e-book.

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Moving to England

Share a story about the furthest you’ve ever traveled from home.

I went to England to study when I was 21, and it became a second home to me for 4 years. During that 4 years, I lived in 3 cities including London.

It wasn’t the first time I left home but it was the first time I left my home country. I studied at a boarding school which I entered before I turned 13. So, I was already used to being away from my family. During my school years, I went home only twice a year during the semester breaks and one more time during Eid Al-Fitr. I took the train home travelling about 330 km (205 miles). The distance was not as far as Harry Potter had to travel from King’s Cross to Edinburgh, though 😄.

Leaving for a foreign country however is different from going to a boarding school in the same country. Foreign means so many things would be different – language, culture, climate, food, lifestyle, cost of living and the list goes on.

What made it sadder was, my mum could not see me off at the Subang International Airport. She was still in confinement after giving birth to my youngest sister (yes, the age gap between me the eldest daughter and the youngest is 21 years!). Only my father went with me.

Was it scary? Strangely, I don’t remember feeling scared. It was just excitement and anticipation. Probably because I was travelling with a group of friends that I already knew since A Levels. The flight was long. We had a transit in Dubai and on early morning 14 September 1989, we landed at Heathrow Airport. Immigration was smooth and after that we met the uni representatives who took us by coach to Sheffield.

The Malaysian Students Association in Sheffield had already assigned senior students to us according to our accommodation. On our first evening, the Phd student who was taking care of my group invited us to have dinner at his house. On the next few days he also brought us to town and showed us where to buy the essentials – duvet, jackets and halal food.

Alhamdulillah, I’m grateful for the senior’s help which had made our first arrival in the UK feel welcomed and the transition process less challenging and overwhelming.

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Forgiving Heart

Are you holding a grudge? About?

What I want most before I die is a complete forgiveness from Allah. There are two Arabic words associated with forgiveness:

1) Maghfirah مغفرة (forgiveness)

2) ‘Afuw عفو (pardon)

What’s the difference between Maghfirah (مغفرة ) and ‘Afuw (عفو )?

Maghfirah: is for Allah to forgive you for the sin but the sin will still be registered on your book of deeds. Maghfirah is Allah’s forgiveness for your sin but on the Judgment Day it will be written on your record, Allah will ask you about it but HE won’t punish you because of it.

‘Afuw: is for Allah to forgive you for the sin and delete it from your book of deeds as if it did not happen. ‘Afuw is Allah’s pardon for your sin, it will be completely erased from your record and Allah won’t ask you about it on Judgement day.

This is why Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said that, this is the best Duaa (prayer) to make on Laylatul Qadr (the night of power/decree; the night of one thousand months) the special night in Ramadan:

“Allahumma innaka ‘afuwwun tuhibbul ‘afwa fa’fu ‘annee”
(Ahmad, Ibn Majah, and Tirmidhi)

*O Allah, You are The One Who pardons greatly, and You love to pardon, so pardon me.)”

As a human being, I sin everyday but I still want God to forgive me, to erase all my sins. Thus, it is fair that I also forgive other people and not hold any grudge against them.

Being forgiving does not mean you allow other people to bully and take advantage of you. However, being forgiving will give you a peaceful mind and help you to lead a happy, content and grateful life.

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Relaxed

How are you feeling right now?

We came home from a 3-night getaway in Terengganu, a state on the East Cost of Peninsula Malaysia, yesterday. It was the 66th anniversary of Malaysia Independence Day.

We stayed at a 3-room semi-D house that’s so close to the beach. We did a lot of walking, seafood eating and sitting/swinging on a hammock at the beaches (we went to 4 beaches) looking at the sea, watching the waves and the birds.We saw some turtles and whale bones at the turtle sanctuary/endangered marine life centre.

We did some shopping too. Other than keropok (fish crackers), satar and otak-otak (both are fish-based food), Terengganu is also well known for batik and songket. Songket is a traditional hand-woven fabric with intricate designs using gold and silver threads. Nowadays, the machine-made songket are widely available and much cheaper but of course the hand-woven one is special. I was told that now there are only 100 songket weavers left in Terengganu.

Today is just laundry day and eat whatever is available in the house day.

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70s series

What TV shows did you watch as a kid?

1. The Bionic Woman

1. The Six Million Dollar Man

3. CHiPs

4. Combat

5. Big Blue Marble

6. Incredible Hulk

7. Charlie’s Angels

8. Little House on the Prairie

9. Mission Impossible

10. The Invisible Man

These are some that I could recall.

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Nasi Lemak

What’s your favorite recipe?

Rice cooked with coconut milk, and pandan leave to give a special fragrant, eaten with anchovies sambal.

I usually use the packed instant coconut milk, not the fresh one.

WordPress free image of nasi lemak
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Hobonichi 2024 Lineup

Tell us about the last thing you got excited about.

Hobonichi is Japanese brand stationery only journals, planners and stationery enthusiasts might know of.

Every year, throughout August they would be giving sneak peeks of their lineup for the coming year. Each day, they release a bit of info, building up the suspense and by the end of August, their followers would already be able to have some ideas about the new journal covers that they are going to release.

On the 1st September, people can already start placing their orders for 2024 products. Hobonichi is not cheap, but if you have to pay for international shipping, that makes them even more expensive.

Why would people be buying expensive planners so early? It’s because many of these covers are limited edition – a few are only available through a lottery, and there are also products that can only be purchased in-store in Japan. Only stationery lovers who use the hashtag #stationeryaddicts and #planneraddicts would understand this kind of obsession.

Anyway, after almost one month of waiting, I’m happy to say, I’m not that impressed with the 2024 lineup. Yay! 🎉It’s good for my wallet then since I won’t consider buying any of them for the time being.

I’ll try to use up whatever I already have – notebooks, planners, journals at least till Spring next year. Why Spring? It’s because Hobonichi also has April start planners. For those of you who are not familiar, schools and universities, even new office recruitment start in April in Japan. Thus it’s only natural to have planners that begin in April.

I will just wait patiently for another 6 months 😀

My 2023 Hobonichi small white butterfly A6 cover
2023 Hobonichi A5 Tokyo Metronome cover